6 Tips for Companions and Caregivers
What can you do to help yourself and your loved one deal with cancer? Here are some tips to help you optimally manage the cancer experience:
- Keep the lines of communication open. Actively listen and be mindful of what you say. In particular, do not to tell a cancer survivor “I know how you feel,” as you likely don't know how someone feels unless you have had that particular cancer.
- Friends can be more directive when offering help; for example, rephrasing “What can I do for you?” to “What are the things you hate doing most?” and offering to take on an unpopular task.
- Accompany your family member or friend to all medical appointments. You will become more knowledgeable and you can also serve as an important conduit for information. Take notes, record consultations, help your companion prepare questions and seek out treatment options for her diagnosis.
- Be proactive and educate yourself because education is key to dispelling myths surrounding cancer. You may want to initiate a phone and/or e-mail “tree” to streamline communications with family members, friends and colleagues.
- Seek avenues of support. The Breast Cancer Network of Strength Partner’s/Men's Match Program, provides support and education to men assisting a loved one through breast cancer.
- Talk to someone who's been in your shoes. You can always call Breast Cancer Network of Strength's YourShoesTM 24/7 Breast Cancer Support Center and speak to a peer counselor for more ideas.
This information was first printed in Lifeline.